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Taking Care of Everyone?

There are people who have become so accustomed to taking care of everyone that they no longer know how to take care of themselves. They remember everybody's birthdays, monitor everybody's emotional state, attend to family responsibilities, support friends, solve problems at work, and remain available whenever someone needs help. Yet, when asked how they are doing, their answers are often brief because they have not created enough room to examine their own lives. They have mastered the art of caring for others but have neglected the responsibility of caring for the person they see in the mirror every morning.

One of the most overlooked dangers of excessive caregiving is the gradual loss of personal identity. You begin to define your existence through the needs of other people. Your happiness depends on whether everyone around you is comfortable. Your decisions are influenced by the fear of disappointing people, and your personal ambitions are repeatedly postponed because somebody needs your attention. Before long, you become familiar with everybody else's struggles but disconnected from your own dreams. Caring for people is beautiful, but when it consistently requires you to abandon your personal development, something needs to change.

Mark 12:31 says, "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself." Notice that the scripture presents love for one's neighbour in relation to the love one has for oneself. This does not encourage selfishness or make personal comfort the centre of existence. Rather, it establishes a healthy understanding of love. You cannot consistently practise healthy love while treating your own life, responsibilities, and development as unimportant. Your wellbeing matters, your spiritual growth matters, your emotional development matters, and the purpose God has entrusted to you matters. Love should produce responsible care, not the destruction of personal identity.

You must begin to take responsibility for your own life. Examine your financial decisions, spiritual development, emotional health, relationships, career, education, and personal goals. Identify the areas where you have become dependent on other people's approval or distracted by their expectations. Learn to make decisions that support your growth without becoming insensitive to the needs of others. You can support your family without abandoning your dreams. You can serve in ministry without neglecting your personal development. You can love your partner without losing your individuality. Healthy relationships should create room for both people to grow, contribute, and fulfil their God-given responsibilities.

Purpose discovery requires you to become intentional about the life you are living. You cannot spend every available moment helping other people discover their potential while refusing to explore yours. There is a reason you were created, and there are responsibilities attached to your existence that nobody else can fulfil on your behalf. Allow the Holy Spirit to guide your priorities, develop your gifts, and help you establish a healthy balance between service and personal responsibility. Taking care of yourself is not abandoning others. It is recognising that your life is also a responsibility. You were created to be a blessing, but you were also created to become everything God intended you to be.

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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