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THE DANGER OF DATING WITHOUT PURPOSE DISCOVERY

Dating without purpose discovery can become dangerous because you may enter a relationship before understanding who you are, what God has called you to do, and what kind of person can genuinely walk with you. When you do not understand your assignment, you can easily mistake attraction for direction, attention for love, and emotional excitement for divine alignment. You may become so focused on being chosen by someone that you forget that God already created you with an assignment that existed before the relationship. Before you ask, “Who should I date?” you should first ask, “Who am I becoming in Christ?”

Purpose gives you a sense of direction when emotions become strong. Without purpose, you may allow someone else's preferences to determine your lifestyle, priorities, values, friendships, career decisions, spiritual growth, and future. You may begin adjusting everything about yourself simply because you want the relationship to work. But love should not require you to lose the identity God is forming in you. A relationship should complement your obedience to God, not compete with it.

You also need purpose discovery because it helps you recognize what kind of person can walk with you. Not everyone who loves you is necessarily equipped to participate in your assignment, and not everyone you are attracted to is aligned with the direction of your life. You must learn to distinguish between someone who makes you feel good and someone who can responsibly build with you. The question is not simply, “Do I like this person?” but, “Can we walk together without either of us abandoning what God has entrusted to us?”

Scripture says, “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10). You were created for good works before you entered a romantic relationship. Therefore, do not make dating the foundation of your identity. Discover yourself in Christ, understand your assignment, grow in character, and then allow your relationship decisions to be guided by that understanding. What if the relationship you are desperately trying to find is not the greatest thing you need to discover right now? What if God is first calling you to discover what He created you to become?

Hope Expression Values You 
Apostle Prince Victor Matthew 

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